3 Relationship Goals That Actually Matter
April 6, 2017

My husband and I met on July 30, 2015 at a business growth group in Hollywood, Florida. All it took was 4 dates before he asked me to be his girlfriend.

We dated for 6 months before he asked me to marry him and ten months later, we said “I DO.”

When I look back, I still can’t believe how in the span of one year and half, we met, dated, and got married.

What was ironic about my relationship with Julian was that we were complete strangers. We didn’t go to school together, we didn’t work together nor had any mutual friends.

How in the world did we cross path and fall in love?!

Julian comes from a Cuban/Puerto Rican family. He was born in Brooklyn and moved to Miami with his parents when he was 3 years olds. I on the other hand was born and raised in the Dominican Republic, and moved to the Bronx when I was 11 years old with my mom and sister after my parents divorced.

Julian has moved 3 times in his life. I have moved 27 times.

When I stop to think about our backgrounds and our individual story, I get a sense of gratitude for our relationship. There are many people that haven’t found love yet…

Wherever you’re in your relationship journey, whether you’re at the edge of divorce, or perhaps you’re simply discouraged because things aren’t going as you expected, I want to encourage you to think about how you and your spouse met.


Do this.

  1. Go to your nearest coffee shop or local restaurant.
  2. Order your favorite drink.
  3. Put away your digital devices.
  4. Get a pen and paper and write down some of the moving parts in your own life that had to be aligned to lead you to your spouse.
  5. Now, write down some of the moving parts in your partner’s life that you know of that had to also be aligned for him/her to meet you.

Once you have both lists, I want you to think about the day you met. Isn’t it amazing how many things God had to orchestrate just for the two of you to meet?

This is one of the most humbling and gratifying exercises I habitually do. It instantly switches my focus to gratitude because I realize that just me meeting Julian is a miracle on its own.

Before Julian, I was in a 3-year relationship with a guy that I thought I would marry. He broke my heart after telling me that he didn’t want to be in a committed relationship anymore. How do you throw away a 3-year relationship from one day to the next?

Now looking back, I am even grateful for my ex dumping me! That was one of the moving parts that had to align for me to be available for Julian.

Thank God for the broken road that led me to him!

I have learned to appreciate both of our journeys and I’m extremely grateful for everything we both went through. I realize that things weren’t happening “to” us. They were happening “for” us.

Just for the day that we would meet.

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